"Outgrowing" Old Favorites - Feeling Guilty/Sad

I used to 100% love these little fit and flare dresses from Closet UK. In fact, I think I have them in almost EVERY colour.

None of them have been getting any love lately. They still fit me well, but I always hesitate to wear them to work because of their length, and I'm always reaching for something else.

I think it says something about the state of the dresses in my closet when I try to go and find pictures of WiW and can only come up with 7 of them in the last two years.

I think passing on the patterned ones will not be painful for me, but I do have a collection of solid coloured ones - red, navy, green, purples ... Should I 1 in 1 out them for something similar but longer length, or hang on to them?

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  • Mo replied 5 years ago

    It's inevitable that our tastes change as we grow.  Is there any hem to let out in them?  
    I ditched 2 skirts when I first got back to FL for being too short and have been searching high and low for proper length replacements.  Sigh.  I feel you.  
    This leads to me wanting more than ever to not go overboard on any one new trend or silhouette in any given season.  2 or 3 should suffice.  That way I don't wake up one day suddenly sick of half my clothes!

  • Kristin L replied 5 years ago

    That is tricky. Is there a way you can move them to where you'd see them more when you get into your closet? Or can you let them out a little to get some more length?

  • lyn* replied 5 years ago

    No chance on letting any of them out; it's a bit tricky ... but they're about 35" long and I usually wear about 38" these days; *grumps*

    Thanks :3 Maybe I'll try to find good homes for them.

  • carter replied 5 years ago

    Lyn*, these look so great on you. I do understand wanting a little more length/conservative silhouette for the office though. I think a couple of them still work for work with tights and a fitted cardi. What if you moved the others to date night/weekend capsules?

  • DizzyLizzy replied 5 years ago

    I would hold on to numbers 2 and 5 which are totally fab and kinda timeless but pass on the others if they've done their time. Do you need to do one in/one out? Will there be a gap in your wardrobe if you wave goodbye to any of these or the coloured ones if they're not currently being worn?

  • Mo replied 5 years ago

    ooh, could you make some into skirts, and lower the length a bit that way?  

  • lyn* replied 5 years ago

    I think part of the struggle is I want a fabulous purple fit and flare - but I hesitate to buy a new one because I already "have one" - but I don't wear the one that I have, you know? Ditto for navy and red. 

    That is the only reason why I'd 1:1.

    Oooh, great idea to move them to the date/going out capsule! DONE!!! :D

  • Aleta replied 5 years ago

    I always think that this silhouette suits you so well, but maybe as a professional woman the length looks a little short and girly, but for off duty life I think it is fine. 

    For me I would say that I'm not loving #2 and #6, possibly because of the pattern.  #1 makes me think of the summer, the others all look delightful to me although I think they look better with hose. 

  • Liz A. replied 5 years ago

    I honestly think these look great on you but a slightly lower neckline would be more flattering so I think it's ok to let some go. I like #4. Maybe keep 2 or 3 for date nights as was suggested. I will be forever jealous of your ability to find dresses that fit you off the rack... Broad back, small waist is a nightmare over here.

  • Refugee replied 5 years ago

    Do you have a light weight skirt that is a bit longer that you could layer underneath?

  • lyn* replied 5 years ago

    Ah; I do have a slip. Great idea!!! :)

  • Suz replied 5 years ago

    Dr. Lyn....you are growing up! 

    Take this with a grain of salt because it is coming from a ruthless purger. I would get rid of all of them and replace with ones that will make you feel fantastic NOW. I guess if you have one favourite for dates or summer days off, then keep (because they're cute, yes, and suit you) -- but otherwise? I say begone, and welcome the new. 

  • Transcona Shannon replied 5 years ago

    Your style is growing and changing lyn - I say let them go and don't you dare feel guilty. Growth and change is a good thing :)

  • Joy replied 5 years ago

    What Suz and Shannon said. You have become a professional and an adult. It's time to move these out for something better. They may be holding your style back.

  • unfrumped replied 5 years ago

    I agree--I think you've moved beyond them. That's life and a good thing!
    If you have a fave for summer, or with tights/boots--but you don't need most of these anymore.
    It may be you want longer, or also some different silhouettes entirely. And longer doesn't mean midi's--sometimes just a little bit longer or more drapey reads as more elegant or professional rather than just perky.

  • lyn* replied 5 years ago

    Thanks so much ladies; so much has happened in the work transition it is like I am growing up (bah, but I still like my Beanie Babies!!!!!)

    I guess it's part of living.

  • replied 5 years ago

    Well if you keep two, I vote for 2 and 5 (unless you already have something similar in a longer length). 

    I was going to say what Suz did, you're just growing up and it's all good. Pass them to a younger relative and enjoy being able to get a few new ones. 

    @Mo, excellent point about not overdoing it on one trend or silhouette. I have had that morning when I'm suddenly sick of half of my clothes!

  • Shirley replied 5 years ago

    So cute. Can you wear them for fun outings? Otherwise, I say move on.

  • Astrid replied 5 years ago

    Please don't feel guilty about outgrowing something, it happens to us all! If you don't love and wear them anymore, let them go without feeling bad about it. I like the idea of keeping your favourite ones for casual summer looks or dating. And in a year from now you can always reevaluate those too.

  • Tricia replied 5 years ago

    I love #2. I think you look adorable in these, but I definitely get not feeling it anymore. I would keep #2 for going out - especially with tights and boots.

    Do you guys all think that shape/length is too youthful? I'm in my late 30s, and I would wear that with no hesitation.

  • Mo replied 5 years ago

    I find it either youthful or retro (early 60's housewife).

  • lyn* replied 5 years ago

    I don't think the shape is too "youthful" depending on how tall you are :) - I think you can rock these out totally, Tricia!

    I just have a bit of trouble because I think they are too short right now for most of my work needs. I wouldn't hesitate to wear these to work if I was in a different profession, or if I was still a student.

    I wear tons of dresses with this type of cut though; and patterns! 

  • Amy replied 5 years ago

    Lyn, I think your tastes/needs are changing and that's perfectly normal. Let them go and don't worry for a minute about it!

    I don't find fit and flare dresses particularly youthful in and of themselves. The shorter length does read younger though. 

  • donnat replied 5 years ago

    I get that tastes change, and you have tons of nice dresses thst you prefer, however, that houndstooth number is outstanding! (Imho)

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